You’re Being Sabotaged

My client called me the other day, so excited he couldn’t gather all the tumbling words that were trying to fall out of his mouth. He did it, he kept telling me, he did it.

After laughing with him for a minute, for a reason I still didn’t know, he catches his breath, gathers his thoughts and tells me this story—

My client, let’s call him Kevin, had been wanting to have a personal procedure done for well over ten years. A somewhat controversial procedure (and somewhat expensive) — one that he was ‘afraid’ to do because of what others my think. Why couldn’t he just be conventional? Where was that money going to come from? Responsible people don’t go about things this way.

After doing a lot of work on himself and with me, he understood those beliefs were bullshit. So, he scheduled the procedure, still not knowing how he was going to pay for it. Three days after scheduling his procedure, Kevin receives an unexpected check in the mail. For almost the EXACT amount of his procedure. This check came from an overpayment of an auto-pay insurance policy, that apparently had been going on for quite some time.

He says “I did it, Sarah, I showed up and look at what happened!”

This same thing happened to me a few years ago. My husband wanted to take a class that we weren’t sure how to pay for. But, we knew this was an important class to take, so we decided that he would register for it and we would figure it out. A week later, I received a check in the mail for an overpaid cable account that I had closed almost a year prior. And, guess what? It was for the exact amount of the class.

My favorite story is when I landed a lucrative coaching package two weeks before what was going to be a very slim Christmas. This happened during the first year of Mindful Energy and finances were tight. I had been really stressed about the burden I was putting on my family, while trying to coax this business off the ground.

On that particular morning, I was drinking coffee and scrolling through Facebook, thinking little more than how I needed money for gas now (I was on empty) and then I would figure the rest out later. I come across a plea for help from someone I only kind of knew. She needed a ride to the grocery store because her car was broken down. Beings I had nothing else to do, I messaged her saying I could help. After dropping her back at her house with the groceries, she gave me $20 for gas. I thanked her and went on my way. Once I was out of sight, I started hooping and hollering because I had gas money. I was so grateful! I had no idea what I was going to do next, but I had gas money!

Later that afternoon, the woman I had chauffeured to the grocery store calls me and tells me about a friend she has who would really benefit from my services. I say great, have them call me. The friend called me, we talked, and a deal was struck. We had Christmas with the lights on that year.

None of these things happened because we are lucky, or blessed, or have the proper crystal grid. This is what happens when you get clear about what you want and show up for the work to be done. There is a direct route between what you want and achieving it. We can get lost or bogged down in the in-between, the place where we think the work happens. The task lists, the action plans, the checklists — all made up of things we know. Ways we think things can happen. When we focus on what we think we know — how we think things need to happen, we miss out on what is actually happening. When we focus only on what we know, we sabotage all the ways it could be.

To stop sabotaging and begin receiving, follow these three steps —

Get very specific about what you want. The universe doesn’t interpret intention, the universe doesn’t say, “Oh, I’m sure she meant this”. Be super clear about what you want and when you want it.

Get your head out of the checklist. The checklist of all the things you know to be true, is, by definition, limited to only what you know. And compared to all the possible ways something can happen — you don’t know shit. Stay focused on your super-specific goal, and be open to how it happens.

And last, when the way becomes clear, you need to act. You need to show up and do the work. Sometimes this is as simple as answering a request for a ride to the grocery store. I guarantee you, neither of us would have had offering a ride on our task list of ways to save Christmas. The universe is funny that way.

Sarah offers a humorous, down to earth approach to radical self discovery. Mentor, author, and leading innovator in her field, she eases the learning curve of this thing called life. You can have Sarah coach you and hang out with her on Facebook and Instagram

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